I think at times there is a misconception that the office of a Plastic Surgeon on any typical day is filled with fragile self-esteemed women who have been “gently” ushered in at the elbow by dominating men with a low set brow. I can tell you that in my almost 20 years of practice, that is not the case. Oh, don’t get me wrong…It does happen. But it is so rare, that I would be shocked if I see more than 2 cases a year of that. But what I do see on any given office day, is confident women who have pretty clear cut goals about what they want and what makes them happy; and what of the men? Oh they’re there… Usually sitting in the chair next to their wives or girlfriends and just being incredibly supportive. What I hear from them is “Hey, this is all about her…”, or “Honey, you know I think you look great right now…” Most of the time, these men would honestly rather go get jet skis or quad runners! Now that’s not to say that when the plastic surgery is done that they don’t appreciate the result because they really seem to. But overall I have seen the far majority of men be very accepting of their partners and are not super critical. Many times, women can be their own worst critic and not the men in their lives.
I have always characterized it this way for my patients. Most men have explained that they really care more about interaction than appearance. If they can get out there and do activities together, be it biking, beach or pool, have an uncensored environment without dressing in the closet or the dark (two of the more frequent comments when asked) and have a fulfilling sex life, then most men are not bothered in the least by a small cup size, a few extra pounds or the “scourge” of cellulite. And if I do see men being what I think is way too critical, then that raises a huge red flag for me in my practice and I discourage any surgery, or at the very least, have a good one on one conversation with the woman about the concerns I have.
So for most of us men, we’re thrilled just to have a woman we love by our side!